…and I will not set fire to myself to keep you warm.
I have a tendency to carry the emotions and energies of other people while simultaneously ignoring my own needs. I seek to help others, regardless of how it affects me. I’m learning that it’s more beneficial to me in the long run when I separate myself from things that aren’t creating a positive space to grow as a person. A few months ago I would’ve seen this as selfish and negative. However, I’ve realized that I don’t have to view it that way. This is something I constantly have to remind myself of. If we aren’t nourishing ourselves mentally, physically, spiritually, and emotionally, we are doing a disservice to those we are trying to help. It’s okay to recognize and walk away from toxic relationships in your life. You don’t have to feel bad about it. There is no reason to feel bad about it. You may be holding on to people because you’re afraid of what your life will be without them, or what their life will be without you, but if you’re not building each other up then you should walk away. It isn’t an easy thing to do, but it is possible.
“The first law of nature is self-preservation. Cut off that which may harm you. But if it is worth preserving, and is meaningful, nourish it and have no regrets. Ultimately, this is true living and love of self…from within.”
Know that your self-preservation is relevant, important, and worth it.